My Girlfriend Makes Me Crazy

Seriously

Published on July 5, 2004 By Red Rhino In Dating

I know I'm not alone here, but my grilfriend makes me crazy. In more ways than one. First off, she is a wonderful wonderful caring woman... but whenever she gets down or mad she doesn't say a word. She will put on a happy face, go on about her business, but she lets out tell-tell signs that she hates everyone and everything at this particular moment. So I try to ask her what is going on and she says "Oh, don't worry about it." Am I supposed to forget that she's upset and go about my daily life not worrying about it? I don't really see how I'm supposed do that when we are together. Maybe if I leave and we both carry about and do our own things, I can. But my thoughts always linger back to her and I can never really enjoy anything. So it drives me crazy. I try to talk to her about whats bugging her (because now, whatever it is, its bugging me too) but she just puts up a brave face and doesn't want to talk about it. And I pull my hair out because I want to "Solve" her problem. Eventhough I know its not that easy, but at least knowing what is bothering her would be a big first step.

And like I said before, she is a wonderful x 2 caring woman who I love dearly. We ride the high times and the low times. And more often than not its me being the "moody" one to be perfectly honest. But I will go on and on about everything bothering me when I'm depressed. I'll go from how much I hate so and so to how much the color green is "stupid." She always listens to it smiling and agreeing with the craziest things that come out of my mouth.

Then of course, theres the good crazy she drives me. Being around her is wonderful to say the least. She loves to have fun. She cares for the handicapped and loves kids. I love the way her mind works. She grins when she's done something embaressing and laughs about it. She's has a smokin hot body with the attitude and soul to match. As I stated before: "She drives me crazy."

Comments

Poetmom99

on Jul 05, 2004

She will put on a happy face, go on about her business, but she lets out tell-tell signs that she hates everyone and everything at this particular moment. So I try to ask her what is going on and she says "Oh, don't worry about it."

So, let me ask you this....if she told you what was going on, would you then respond with ways you think she can "fix" things? Because I know, from my personal experience, that's the reaction I tend to get when I tell a male about something that's bothering me...whether I ask for advice or not. And most of the time, I don't WANT to be told how to fix it, I just want someone to listen to me rant a bit---or I just want to be left alone to figure it out on my own and get over it.

Red Rhino

on Jul 05, 2004

Well of course. Men fix things, at least we try (just don't flush the toilet for a few days). But I will listen to what she says. I throw out things I think will help, but they aren't meant to derail the "listening to the rant" part. I'll listen to the rant all she needs. But I'm not trying to end the rant.

dharmagrl

on Jul 05, 2004

Poetmom already said what I would have said....men are does, fixers...women are talkers and venters.

My husband and I still have diffculty understanding that after 10 years of marriage. I don't always want him to solve my issues, I usually just want him to listen and make comforting/encouraging/sympathetic noises. Try not to 'throw out things that will help' and see how that goes for you. Sometimes that's all that's needed.

Erofee

on Jul 05, 2004

Ryllen, I know exactly what you mean. Girls, i am not sure if you can understand where we are coming from...But we like to fix things. When you are with someone that you feel that strongly about, your feelings and moods are linked. You share the highest highs and the lowest lows, and for a man, when your partner is having a bad time all you want to do is snatch them up and take them away from whatever is making them feel that way. We hate when our partners feel bad and on a sub-consious level we feel as if we are failing if we can't fix things for them. When my Fiance comes home and she has had a bad day at work, it doesn't matter if i have had the worst day in the world. I take her to the bedroom, give her a massage, bring her a drink and make dinner, then make her sit down while i clean the kitchen. I am usually physically drained after a day of work, but that effort is all worth it if afterwards you can see them smile, see them happy for half a second.

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